As much as we don’t like it, part of life is conflict. We have disagreements based on different ideologies, or someone else treats us unfairly or takes advantage of us. Unfortunately, human greed has no boundaries. If only that energy of wanting and craving was replaced by compassion and love, this world would be a brighter place.

In any conflict, the best means of resolution is through peaceful discussion and mediation. But what do you do if despite all reasonable discussions, the other party is still trying to take advantage of you? Do anger and threats have any role? Firstly, you need to know your rights in any situation and take advice and counsel with those with more experience than you. But it’s equally important to keep it all in perspective because otherwise that anger, bitterness or hatred will only get the better of you. They are like inner poisons that hurt noone else but the individual.

If you need to get angry, then let it happen. Use it as a means for getting the situation fixed. In the same way that you may do with a small child who misbehaves, you use anger for a purpose, but it doesn’t mean that you hate the child. You should be able to get angry without you becoming anger. When you become anger, your whole nature changes and you simply become a fireball of emotions raging out of control. Someone says something innocently and you fly off the handle. This is what happens when you become anger. Learn to come back to an inner space that is cool, calm and collected. That’s how a real warrior lives. Inner calm and unruffled, but ready to spring into action when needed.

Life gives us plenty of opportunities to practice this. Don’t become a pushover just because you want peace. Stand up for your rights. But learn this skill of withdrawing back into your inner space of calm.

Be Well

In Health and Wellness